March 17, 2026

The Seismic Shift In Leadership.

The Seismic Shift In Leadership.
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Learn the 7 seismic shifts in leadership and what you need to do to make sure you can shift and connect as a leader for impact.  I will be talking with Dr Michelle Johnston on understanding these leadership shifts and how to make them. These shifts are critical to create connections with others to drive significant results. Learn what shifts you  may need to make for future success.

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Good morning, Welcome to Next. I'm very excited to have

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the show, and thank you for tuning in. We have

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a good regular crowd that tunes into this to our shows.

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And the reason I started Next is because there's so

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many people doing it. Exciting things later in life or midlife,

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for even as young people, they're starting to think that

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they have a career in a certain direction and guess

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what they need to do something next. Today, I have

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a fabulous person with me, Michelle Johnson, doctor Michelle Johnson.

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She's a distinguished professor at Loyola University. She's won many awards,

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recently a Guru Leadership Guru Award, which is very prestigious

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and she just came out with her Next I guess

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it was in just recently the seismic shift in you.

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And with that, I'd love to introduce doctor Michelle Johnson. Michelle,

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thank you so much for being able to come on board.

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Don't you look cheery?

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I'm so happy to be with you.

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Linda.

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You're one of my favorite people, and you're really a

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trailblazer in the leadership community, and so I love when

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I get a chance to have a conversation with you.

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Well, and we're gonna are going to have a conversation

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this week weekend with our dear mentor who's turning seventy seven,

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Marshall Goldsmith, and we're going to be at his birthday.

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He doesn't look like see he's another perfect person as

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an example of next right, correct?

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I mean Marshall wrote this book with me. We were

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in London in twenty twenty three at the Thinkers fifty

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Award and all of the top thinkers and management leadership

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we're talking about how in the world are we going

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to compete in the leadership world with AI and every

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single speaker without collaboration, without knowing that each was talking

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about the same thing. They were saying, we have to

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lean in with more heart and humanity of what differentiates

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us as humans. And I looked over at Marshall. I said, Marshall,

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we've got to write a book about this. Will you

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be my co author? And he said yes? And that

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was a beautiful moment, because you're right, Linda, he didn't

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have to ease at the time. He was what seventy five.

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At seventy five, I would say yes.

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Yet not have to say yes.

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But he said next, Yeah, he said next. And here

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it was so interesting. And last year twenty five, I

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guess we were all in London at sixth Thinkers fifty

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and you were launching the book with marsh absouly right.

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So twenty twenty three in London at Thinkers fifty, I realized,

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holy smokes, this is another seismic shift. We've got to

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talk about it. No more command and control and just

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leading with directives and ego, like that's not working anymore.

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And so we agreed to write the book. I took

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a year from sabbat. I took a year sabbatical from

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Loyola to write book with Marshall. And then you and

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I met, We flew to London. We met in London.

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We read a fabulous airbnb we did.

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We had a blast.

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We had a blast, and we attended Thinkers fifty again

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and thankfully at that Thinker's fifty twenty twenty five, I

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had the opportunity to launch. That was my glow launch and.

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So it's great.

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It was fantastic we had I was pretty you were there.

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I was so proud to be there with you. It's

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just so exciting and everybody was so excited for you.

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And you know, think, here's fifty. Let's face it, it's

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a pretty great crowd. And here you think you're with

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everybody who's written books, myself included, and you think, oh,

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it's really going to be a stuffy thing. There's nothing

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stuffy about Thinkers. We had a ball.

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Because think about it, these are the people who are

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really comfortable with discomfort, because in order to grow, stay,

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in order to grow, you're going to be uncomfortable. I

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teach my MBA class on Monday nights and I took

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them on a connection walk last night because of daylights.

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Oh how cool, dude, tell us.

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Yes, So they're night classes. So our MBA program is

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for the working professionals. For our classes are from six

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twenty until nine oh five, And.

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Sounds like how I got my NBA.

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Yeah, exactly. So usually it's dark, right, but this Monday,

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it was no longer dark, and I said, we're going

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to take a connection walk. And we walked through the

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beautiful campus of Loyola and we're right across the street

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from a beautiful park, autubn Park. And I was sharing

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with them because I had just come back from this

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incredible weekend in Nashville with all these remarkable women. And

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it's called the Remarkable Women Award, and I was completely

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humbled and honored to have received the New Orleans Remarkable

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Woman Award. So they flew all of the one hundred

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and twenty five remarkable women in the market next. Our

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media puts it on every year, so I was representing

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ABC News, so they flew us all to Nashville. And

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the point in what I shared with my students last

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night and what I'll share with you all today is

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really so many times up until that point when I

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just get to celebrate with these remarkable women doing great

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things with growth, comes unbelievable discomfort. And you know, I

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was trying to talk with them last night, like you

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have beautiful gifts, all of you have beautiful gifts as humans,

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and figure out what those beautiful gifts are. And then

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when you feel that it's your time and you can

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really lean in and help others and have a platform

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and make an impact and make a difference, you will

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feel uncomfortable and yet push through it because it's worth it.

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And I feel like that's why Thinkers fifty is it's

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not stuffy at all, because these are all people so

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used to being uncomfortable because they're constantly growing and changing

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and leaning in and trying to make a difference and thinking.

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About their next and executing against it and figuring out

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how they can move into their next discomfort zone. Because

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that's really what it's all about, to tell you the truth.

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So so Michelle, tell me what give us the nutshell?

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And oh and by the way, congratulations on that award.

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I saw that. And you've been on Kate Snow's show too,

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haven't you.

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Yeah about again? So after we got back from London,

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you and I flew back home. You flew to North Carolina.

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I flew to New Orleans and then I did my

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big launch party. I did I threw a big connection

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event in New Orleans with about two hundred and twenty leaders,

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which was so much fun. And then I flew to

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New York for my media launch and I got to

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be on NBC News with Kate Snow And as a

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matter of fact, Linda right after you and I are

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going to be in New York this weekend. She asked

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me to be on her show again, which just means

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it validates what I'm seeing in the world. And you

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had asked about what am I seeing in the world

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right The seismic shift in you is we have to shift,

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and Marshall and I believe there are seven necessary shifts

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that will.

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First, let me give you a round of applause for

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how well you're doing on all of this. And I've

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been following all your your your stuff, and I'm just

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this is really impressive. You're doing a great job because

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I remember in that Airbnb when the launch started, you

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were leaning in. You were leaning in. So let's talk

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about the book.

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Well, thank you, thank you. That means so much coming

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from you. You understand what it's like, particularly as a woman,

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and to put yourself out there and to feel really

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passionate about something that it's worth it, and I thank you,

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I appreciate it, and yes, it is all so exciting

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and yeah, so the seismic shift in you is I

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realized that if we're going to make changes, I honestly

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thought this next book was going to be about the culture,

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like how to shift a culture so that it's a

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culture of connection not a culture of fear. That was

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my original premise until you and I were in London

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and I realized, no, it's not about looking and fixing

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a culture. The seismic shift has to start within. We

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all have the agency to make significant change right now,

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leaning into connection. I believe in all of the research

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supports me that better connection equals better results. So if

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you are listening right now, and whether you're a leader

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of your house, of little League, of your church, of

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a nonprofit, of a small business, or a global fortune

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five hundred company, you want to create an environment where

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your people feel motivated, where they feel engaged, where they're productive,

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because that all drives your bottom line, right, And the

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only way you're going to get those things is it

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starts with you. The seismic shift has to start with

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you right right.

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And you know the big piece of that is leadership

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starts with you. You can go to a brazilion classes,

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but it starts right in here.

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Correct. And here's the biggest shift that Marshall and I

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realized is one of the things, particularly in America, that

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we do really well is we do achievement well right right.

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We go go, go, go, go, go, go right, and

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sometimes at a very high cost to our physical, mental,

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and emotional health. And so what Marshall and I started

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seeing is that those leaders who only went after task, task, task, achievement, achievement, achievement, next, next, next,

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type promotion, they get to the very top and they say,

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oh wow, where are my most important relationships? I went

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after all of the what rather than the who. So

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the number one size point, the number one seismicshift we

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feel right now in twenty twenty six in the middle

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of all of the changes that are happening, is we

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have to shift our perspective from what.

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To who to who.

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Great point that's going to create this connection lens that

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is actually going to get you what you want. So,

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if you're trying to drive performance and drive financial results,

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it's going to take your people to do that right.

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And if you then show up as somebody a leader

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who cares about your people because you care about yourself first,

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and you have figured out how to have a more

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balanced life, how to focus on relationship and ships, had

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a scheduled time for your well being. Then all of

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a sudden, you're modeling the way and you're saying, you

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know what, I can't have a zoom at six am

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or even seven am because I've got to exercise and

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I want to take my kids to school because that's

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important to me. Those relationships are important to me with

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myself and with my family. And then when I show

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up at work, then I'm going to prioritize you because

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you matter. So it's focusing on the who rather than

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the what.

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Yeah, that's such a great that's such a great point.

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And I think a lot of people get stuck. They

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really get stuck at work in the task is what

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you're really saying, and really trying to achieve, achieve, achieve,

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rather than really thinking through what's really right for me,

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What are the right relationships that I need to have?

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How do I build those relationships? And you know a

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lot of people don't have the courage to think about

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how they make those shifts and what's I'm using next,

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what's next for them that's going to really build them emotionally,

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psychologically and build the connections that they really need to

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be happy and healthy.

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So I love the way you just articulated that, because

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the next rather than looking at the next at job, next, promotion,

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the next to do, the next task is to look

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at it. Yeah, what relationships can I focus on that

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will elevate me and will elevate my team and will

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elevate the company for our next So it really is

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a gift in perspective. Yeah, yeah, it's a.

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Totally different perspective. I do have a woman that I

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worked with. She had a very high powered job at GE,

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very high powered job. She was in finance, which are

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the high power jobs at G when it was high

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powered place, and she just said, this is not for

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me anymore. And she went and her next was a

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bed and breakfast and it says happen happy, Happy, And

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it was was really really interesting. Not to get out

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on Matt Michelle. But you have seven shifts in your book.

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Can you give them to us in a yes?

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Yes? Yes, So that first major shift is a whole

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shift in your perspective from what to who. The second

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shift is the most important who is you? So it's

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the shift in prioritization, because what Marshall and I were

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seeing is all these leaders we were coaching, we're saying,

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oh my gosh, I gained thirty pounds last year. I

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don't have a good relationship with my family. I haven't

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made dinner, you know, maybe one night a week for

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the past year. My cholesterol is out of control. And

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we're hearing these things like, Okay, this is not good

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because they're not prioritizing themselves. And if they're not prioritizing themselves,

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then there's no way they're showing up as the best

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leader they can be. So the second shift is is

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shift your priorities and the most important who is you?

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reflects the most important people in your life. So the

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quote here I like to say is show me your calendar,

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and I will show you your priorities. And it might

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make you really uncomfortable because if I were to ask

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you and I right now to write down the most

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important relationships in our life right now, both personally and professionally,

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and then take out our calendars, you, of course Michelle,

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you too, and we get to see together in New York.

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Would the most important relationships be on our calendar? And

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a lot of the people right now who are in

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those hard driving organizations and work cultures right now, the

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phase of their life that they're in, oftentimes they say,

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oh my gosh, I look at the calendar, and I'm

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nowhere on the calendar because I haven't prioritized myself, so

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I don't have time to exercise, to eat lunch, for

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bio breaks, to pick up my kids. So I'm not

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on the calendar. And that means then the most important people,

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my family and my close friends are not on the calendar.

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I'll give you an example. I got to see doctor VIVEC.

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Murphy last year at the New Orleans Book Festival, and

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he wrote the book Together. He was our US Surgeon

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General under Joe Biden. Under President Biden, the Veck. Murphy

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was the first US Surgeon General to recognize by going

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on a listening tour that the health crisis we were

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in was loneliness and disconnection, right, and a great book

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about it. So I'm listening to him this time last

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year at the New Orleans Book Festival, and he said

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I'll be honest with you all. Once I started, once

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number one issue that I have to focus on, was

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loneliness and disconnection. And then I started realizing that I

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too had fallen victim to this task. Test Test, next, next,

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next title. I got to the very top of my field,

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and I hadn't seen my childhood friends, I hadn't seen

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my college friends. I hadn't seen my friends in so

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long because they no longer were on my calendar. So

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he said, for myself is I put the most important relationships,

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including my personal relationships, back to the calendar. So that's

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shift three, which is shift your calendar. And then we

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have shift four, which we need to shift the way

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that we're showing up for meetings.

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Great one.

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This is what I'm on Kate snow NBC this Monday

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about is people are hating virtual meetings.

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And what we hear is at the end of the day,

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they feel like zoom zombies. And let me tell you

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what I like that. Zoom zoom zombies. They're just fried.

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They don't have any energy left at the end of

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the day. And here's what we're finding is that productivity

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without connection equals emptiness. So they're going through the day

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and zooms are now just being utilized as just transaction.

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You hop on a zoom, you've got an agenda, here's

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what we need to accomplish. What do we need to do?

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Bupah bah okay bye. There's no connection. We don't have

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those organic opportunities to do the chit chat. How you've been,

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how your children, what'd you do this weekend, what's going on?

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There's none of that connection. We just hop on. It's

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all transaction and its accomplishment of goals. So the end

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of the day with because we're humans, we inherently need

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connection like we need food and water. Yes, if we're

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on these virtual zooms all day, we're just feeling like

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a zoom zombie at the end. So we need to

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shift our meetings so that they focus more on connection

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and not transaction.

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Absolutely yes. And so the next shift is conversations, so

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that conversations are more inclusive and we ask those open

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ended questions and we're building bridges. Shift in language Marshall

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taught both of us Linda to not say the word butt.

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That's true. Five bucks if we say butt.

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We have to pay money if we say butt around

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our mentor Marshall Goldsmith, he makes lots of money by

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for people using the word butt. It discounts anything that

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precedes it. So eliminate butt. And the last shift is

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shift your energy, because even on these virtual calls, energy

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is palpable and it's contagious and it affects others. So again,

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if you go back to the first shift and you

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focus on relationship and the second shift you focus on yourself,

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then recognize how important it is to show up with

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the best energy you can.

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So beautiful, I absolutely love that. Now, if you have

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some advice for anybody, well, first of all, I loved

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your book. Let me let me get that out. If

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anybody has not bought it yet, please go out and

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get the Seismic Shift. It's on Amazon, right, Michelle correct,

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and it's just great and it's a good read and

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it's not a yes and it's not you know, it's

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not a tough read. It's a good read and it's

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right there and it hits you right where it needs

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to hit you. So give me, give me three things

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you want people to walk away with from this discussion.

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Number one, I want you to focus and recognize the

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most important who is you. Put yourself on your calendar,

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prioritize yourself, make sure that you're getting what you need

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to be a healthy human. If you can prioritize yourself,

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then you can prioritize other people.

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So the only way you're going to be really good

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at connecting with others and using the right language and

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showing up with positive energy is by seismic lee shifting

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the priority to you. So that's the biggest shot, seismic shift.

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Right if we want to be great at connection, which

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we have to be right now, because let's face it,

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we are in a disconnected world and people are suffering,

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so we have to do things differently. Disconnection is killing us.

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It's the equivalent of smoking sixteen cigarettes a day, and

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it's creating loneliness, big time loneliness. So that's my last point.

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If you want to keep you know, keep doing what

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you're doing. If you want the equivalent of smoking sixteen

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cigarettes a day, I would hope that your listeners are like, no,

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I don't want that. Then we need to shift our perspective,

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our priorities, our calendar, the way we run meetings, the

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way that we speak. We need to focus on connection

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In our personal lives. I think that's really really true. Now,

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one final thing, Michelle, this has just been great. I

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love talking with you. But how do people get a

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hold of you because you need to They need to

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bring you into their organizations. Oh love that.

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Any way that I can help, yes, So go to

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my website Michelle Kjohnston dot com. I'm also all over

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Facebook and Instagram and LinkedIn Michelle K. Johnston and holler

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at me. I would love to help in any way

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I can.

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Great, and thanks for doing this and I'll see you

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in New York in a couple of days now. Bye, Michelle,

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and thanks everybody for listening to this show. I hope

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you got a lot out of it. I certainly loved it.

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And Michelle is clearly a powerhouse and all of this.

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Thanks very much. Talk to you next week. Bye,