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Hello everyone, thank you for joining the show today. I'm
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so excited to have Sally Helgeson as my guest.
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And Sally, she's just.
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The world's premiere person on women's leadership. She's an internationally
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known bestseller, she has ted talks, she's been in this
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business for over thirty years, and there isn't anything that
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she does not know about when it comes to women
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and the workplace and leadership. And now her latest book,
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which I absolutely love, Rising Together, how we can bridge
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divides and create more and more inclusive workplace, and I
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think going forward that's going to be very important. So Bet, Sally,
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thank you so much for joining the show.
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It's a pleasure to be here, Linda, thank you good Yeah,
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I love your books behind there.
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Yeah exactly, I know, I know.
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So how did you get into this in the first place.
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I mean, we've known each other for like thirty years,
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haven't we various different capacities, So how did you.
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Get into this in the first place.
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Well, in the late eighties, I was working as a
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speech writer in a number of different corporations, and I
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really enjoyed the work, and I had great I worked
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at great companies, but I was vividly aware of the
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inability in the organizations that I was in to recognize
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women's strengths as leaders as having you know, real ideas
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that would count and could shape an organization. And I
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remember having one experience where I proposed an idea in
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a meeting and it just didn't Nobody resonated with it,
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nobody mentioned it. They just listened and then went on
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with what they were going about.
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And I remember.
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Afterwards feeling like, oh, I shouldn't have said anything. You know,
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I'm the most junior person there, blah blah blah. And
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what was interesting is the idea I proposed, which was
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a partnership with a group that identified and New York
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City public schools who might be hireable at the for
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the company bring them in. It just didn't go anywhere,
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but the next year, the robin Hood Foundations suggested it
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to the company and it became a big deal. Now,
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obviously I didn't have a pull of the robin Hood Foundation,
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but what it did, I mean, I was just you know,
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young women sitting there as a speech writer. But what
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it did was I thought, you know what, I had
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a great idea that was just the kind of idea
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that they should have listened to. And I began noticing
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the extent to which we had really talented women and
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they felt like they were part of the workplace, but
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their ideas, their thoughts there thinking about the future and
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what the company could be, were never included in anything.
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So I decided that what I wanted to write about
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was the skills women had as leaders, which was not
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a top There were books being written then about you know,
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women in the workplace and you know what they needed
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to do, and they you know, needed to leave their
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values at home and be like the guys.
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I mean, that was the theme.
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But I thought, you know, nobody's talking about the potential,
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the positives that women have. So I decided, you know,
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I was going to write a book about it. And
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the book was The Female Advantage, Women's Passe of Leadership,
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And it became kind of a sensation because there was
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nothing else. So, you know, as happened when with most
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people in their career, timing was extremely important, and I
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was able to start putting some ideas out there into
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the workplace in a way that would help shape it
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or be part of the conversation. Because this was you know,
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the late eighties, I got in on it.
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Well that, I mean, that was brilliant. You know what
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I thought you were going to Well two things I
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want to say. One, I met you at GE because
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he brought you in to help with the whole diversity
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thing and you know, helping women expand.
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But what I thought you.
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Were going to say is that, which maybe you did.
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But you know, a woman will come up with an
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idea saying at the meeting, everybody ignores it, and some
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man comes back with exactly the same thing, and all
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of a sudden it's like, oh, well that's really a
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great idea.
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Yeah, it's essentially what happened to me. But they got
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the idea. They thought it was a great idea a
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year later when it was proposed by a group of men.
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Right of course, you know, and then it sounded like
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really good to do, really good to do. So what
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are your sally, what what were your key transformation points
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in your career?
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Oh, that's interesting, Well that was obviously the worst one. Yes,
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And then I think I began to you know, I
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started getting invitations from companies come, you know, ge, you know,
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wonderful companies come in.
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Work with our group.
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You have a program talk about, you know, what women
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can do to improve their leadership style and make their
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voices heard.
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But I felt like I was a writer.
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I wasn't a speaker, I wasn't an expert, and I
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would qualify that. I mean, people would call on say,
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I'm not an expert. I've just wrote a book. And
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I had this picture of myself as just a writer
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for a wow time.
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Yeah, and then we know you can give speeches.
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You've done ted talks, We know that everything I've done, everything,
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I've done thousands and thousands of programs all over the
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orright all over the world for six countries I think
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I counted.
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And so that was.
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Really hard for me to sort of accept that mantle
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of being an expert because I was always disclaiming it,
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this is such a female behavior.
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Right, it is, you're right.
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And once I accepted that, and once I learned to
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you know, people say, oh, you've had so much influence.
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I wouldn't say, oh, I just wrote a book or
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a couple of books, because I've written now nine.
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But I was going to say more than a couple
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of books, Sally, there's a few out there, Yes there are.
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And it you know, that was a big transformation for
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me because it meant sort of accepting and looking at
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what I had contributed and what I could contribute. And
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that's how I always look at things in the last say,
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twenty years, is through a lens of contribution.
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Yeah, very very nice. Well you were wonderful.
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You and I were just in we were in DC,
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yeah together and Fiona. Fiona's been on the show and
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your talk was so great. It was really great being
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part of that panel. I just you know, I said
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to myself as I listened to said, well, you know,
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I've no always own when I love Sally Helsey. You
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always known why. So how did you run into Marshall?
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Marshall Goldsmith, who was really influential in my career. I
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in nineteen ninety five, when I published the book The
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Web of Inclusion, I was invited out to San Diego
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to that wonderful Hotel del Coronado to don a leadership
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conference for the Peter Drucker Foundation as.
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A nice, very nice yeah.
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So I was the lunchtime speaker. Francis Hesselbeinin invited me
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out and Marshall was there and he was doing a
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workshop and we met and we just kind of hit
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it off, and he had a party that evening for
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people because he lived in the area. And I went
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and we we all piled at a bus and went
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out to where he lived, and.
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Which was not shabby. No, no, no, it wasn't sabby.
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It was it was pretty fat. And I talked to
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him a lot.
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We had a good time, and about three months later
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he called me at home out of the blue and said,
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you know, Sally, I'm putting together a group of people
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in the leadership world to get together in San Diego.
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Hopefully it will happen every year. In January gave me
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the date, He said, would you be available, would you
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come out and it was just a casual gathering of colleagues,
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and he said something that really hit me. He said,
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you know, what we do is really fun, it's exciting,
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it's stimulating, but it's also very lonely because we travel
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around the world.
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We do a program and then we leave. And such
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a good point.
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Yeah, and we don't have a real group of colleagues,
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he said, And I think that's what I'm trying to start.
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So that spoke to me a lot, because i' was
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feeling that, you know, at a life, I had my
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friends in New York, but I just my life was different.
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So I went out and it was a very impressive
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group of people. Some of the people at that time
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who were most influential in the field, Jim Kusis and Bridges,
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et cetera, wondering I love both of them, Oh I know,
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I know, fantastic, fantastic people. And then Bill later was
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working with his wife, Susan Bridges, and she joined, so
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we had it was a very intimate group. We decided
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a couple of years in that we were not going
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to expand because it evolved as kind of friendship support group,
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and through through being part of that, it was really
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I don't know. It gave me a sense of belonging
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and professional, you know, connections that I had that had
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been missing, even though I know my career was going
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well and I was very pleased with it, so that
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was important. But I had this idea, this goes to
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how women rights about me to talk about Yeah, yes, oh.
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Yeah, I would love to hear. That was actually going
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to be my next question. But I just want to
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make a comment. You know, Marshall has Marshall Goldsmith for
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any you know, look him up for anybody who's watching
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the show right now. But he has been a real
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career launcher for a lot of people. In ninety five,
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I was working for GE, but he really helped me
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to that whole you know, career expansion on my part,
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and he's done that with you and so many other people.
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But go ahead with the I didn't mean no, that's fun.
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I know, and that is true. We take him tribute
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for that.
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So he brought out this book in twenty ten called
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What Got You Here, Won't Get You There, huge national bestseller,
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and it was a factus book about you know, how
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people's strengths also undermine them in their career. Right, I
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thought The book was wonderful, but I did think that
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it seemed pretty male centric. Is that a lot of
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the things that got in people's ways, like, you know,
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they never apologize, or they you know, are constantly bragging
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about what they did, et cetera, et cetera. I thought, well,
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this is not what gets in women's ways. You know.
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I knew that I'd been working in the field of
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women's leadership by that time for twenty five years, and
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so I wanted to collaborate with Marshall and what I
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thought would be a book that took that theme but
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did it specifically with women. You know, what are the
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habits that hold women back from really reaching their full potential?
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And I felt like that, yeah, And I felt like
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I sort of had a good sense of it because
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I've been on so many panels and this was really global.
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So I wanted to ask Marshall if he wanted to collaborate,
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but it took me. It took me two years to
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work up my courage to ask him if he wanted
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to collaborate.
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That's such a woman's thing, isn't it. It's such a
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woman's thing. And he said yes immediately. I'm sure, of course.
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He did.
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But what was funny is I felt like what he'd
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think was, Oh, she wants to collaborate with me because
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she knows we can get a huge advance that you
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know that it'll boost the size of her advance, or
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she wants to collaborate with me because I have you know,
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a million and a half LinkedIn followers, so kind of
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that he would see me as someone trying to glom
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on to him. But when I suggested it, he said,
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that's a great idea. In fact, I've had women who've
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mentioned that, and I have more and more women that
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I'm speaking to and working with, and I think working
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with you would give me, really would give me much
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more credibility.
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So I love Yeah. So he thought of it completely.
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Differently than I anticipated he would be thinking of it.
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And so he yes, he did say yes, And there
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were a couple you know, contractual roadblocks, but we finally